I hate disapointing my kids

So for Halloween we were going to go to Nightfall at Old Tucson Studios. Then my husband calls with two unexpected bills. So we can't go. I had to be the one to tell my daughter. She was so disappointed she had tears in her eyes. She is the 13one year old. So I offered her to have a last minute Halloween party tomorrow night. At first she was upset about it, but as she started to text her friends she started to feel better. I on the other hand, still feel really bad that I let her down.

My son is a butthead!

So this is my first day off in two weeks. Do I get to sleep in? No! My four year old wakes up at 6 am. All morning he has been running around with his head cut off. All morning he has been yelling at me and his sister; plus he has no patience this morning.
This morning was my husband's payday. We also had my "adopted" daughter Shauntelle spend the night. So I decided we would do donuts for breakfast. First we had to go get my husbands bank card and then gas. Aiden is sitting in his car seat in the back yelling at us that he wants donuts now. We tell him to hang on and we will go, then he starts crying.
We finally make it home and before I even put the car in park, he is crying that he wants out. I love my son to death. But it is only 9:15 and the whole house is ready to duct tape him to the wall.

10 Things I Love About Each Kid

This is my 10 list of what I love about my kids.  Sense they are individuals, I decided to break it down into each kid.
Alexis
1) How smart she is.
2) How she is already studying colleges.
3) She has a unique fashion sense.
4) She is an early bird.
5) We have totally different tastes in music.
6) She sings with her headphones on.
7) She is a girly girl.
8) She is so loving.
9) She is my right hand man.
10) She is so much like me.

Anthony
1) How he cares so much.
2) How innocent he is.
3) He is a wonderful drawer.
4) He is so good at video games.
5) He loves to spend time with me.
6) He is so curious to do good.
7) How he was so proud of himself that he got more a's than his sister.
8) He loves to help around the house.
9) He doesn't care if his clothes match.
10) He is my mama's boy.

Aiden
1) How full of energy he is.
2) How he is better at angry birds than me.
3) How he won't let me leave without giving hugs and kisses.
4) He loves to be a big boy and help with dinner.
5) How he thinks he can do everything by himself.
6) That troublemaker smile he gives you.
7) When he pretends to be a dinosaur.
8) He is my snuggle baby.
9) He has no fear.
10) He is my last baby.

The temper tantrums!

They are driving me nuts.  Several weeks ago Aiden started throwing these temper tantrums.  if you tell him no, doesn't get his way, or tell him he can't have something he starts screaming "I want (insert object her)" and humping up and down.  Like this morning.  I asked him he wanted oatmeal.  He started a tantrum about wanting cereal.  I was like ok just asking I will make you cereal.  So i make it and set it on the table.
Then his bother comes in and makes some oatmeal.  So now he is screaming over and over "I don't want cereal." and kicking on the living room floor.  I had already made the cereal and after the fit he threw about having cereal, I was not going to give in.
That is the battle that has been going on in my house.  Aiden is throwing these tantrums to get attention, plus he knows when he does through a tantrum, he will get what he wants.  This morning I ignored him while he sat in the living room screaming that he didn't want cereal.  I got up to go to my room to get ready for work and I hear Anthony tell Aiden that he can have the rest of his cereal.  Exactly, Aiden got his way.  I know everyone in the house is frustrated.  These tantrums happen so frequently and they can last anywhere from 10 mins to 30 mins.
Alexis has been complaining about having a constant headache due to her brother.  Everyone gets so annoyed with Aiden's tantrum that they give in and give him what they want.  I have tried explaining to my husband and the kids that they need to just ignore those fits.  It drives me crazy when he has them, but I just walk away and go on with my business.  Eventually he realizes I am not paying attention and moves on.
That is what I am trying to get everyone else to realize.  I keep telling my husband to completely ignore him.  Don't even punish him for the temper tantrums.  Aiden knows just how to manipulate his father and get what he wants.
I just hope he grows out of this phase soon!

The babysitter

It was so cute going to check on the kittens and finding my 7 month old cat, Deedee, babysitting the kittens.  I tracked down mama and found her laying by the bathroom door, just relaxing.

As for the kittens.  They are doing great.  Getting nice round bellies.  And one of them has started to open their eyes.

Blog Dare 10/2/11

What I want the kids to dress up as for Halloween, as opposed to what they want to be.

We haven't even started looking at costumes this year yet.  i know we are running so late lol, even though Halloween isn't tell the end of the month.  I have never been really big on telling the kids what they have to be for Halloween.  My 4 year old doesn't care and I could do what ever I want to him.  The older two, I guess as long as it is not disrespectful or something.
One discussion did come up recently with my 11 year old that I disagree with.  He decided this year that he does not want to go trick or treating.  In my family it has always been a tradition.  Everyone dresses up including the parents.  He said he just doesn't feel like it this year.  i am still in the process of trying to convince him it will be fun.  I don't want to force him if he doesn't want to go, but it wouldn't be the same without him.

Blog dare 10/1/11

A celebrity I just don't get:

That would have to be any celebrity parent involved in the media right now. Whether it be Tom and Kate or Brad and Angelina. I do not understand these parents who put their kids all over the papers and expose all their family issues. And let's face it, most of these issues I would find completely embarrassing and wouldn't wont the whole world to know about it.
Most of all I feel sorry for the children. They are under constant watch and have no time to enjoy their childhood. They have to be on their best behavior cause what if the paparazzi were to catch them doing something inappropriate.  Mom and dad are constantly bickering on the news and everywhere the go they see their faces plaster all over the magazines.
This is not the life I would want for my children.  I do not understand why these celebrity parents do it to their children.  Yes I may blog.  But I am in control of what I put on the web and I can control who sees it.
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Worried about the wrong one

I thought with the new kittens I would have to worry about the baby getting a hold of them.. Aiden is too young to understand how fragile the kittens are. He wants to hold them, but he is too rough. Now I am finding that I was worried about the wrong one. Deedee, the 7wrong month old kitten, wants to play with the new kittens. I once again found her in the bed with mama and the kittens. One of the kittens was trying to struggle to get a nipple to nurse on. Deedee kept trying to get the kittens tail, but was missing and kept getting the kittens foot. It was kinda funny to watch. But I had to kick Deedee out if the room so mama and the kittens can get their rest.
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KITTENS!!!

The kittens are here! The kittens are here! I don't know who is more excited, me or the kids lol. So last night our momma cat was acting a little crazy. So we had the feeling she was going to deliver soon. I feel asleep on the couch. At 1:30 in the morning I woke up to go to bed. I found her under the bed having the kittens. She is a first time mom and still young herself, so she was having some difficulties. I was able to mover her and the two already born out from under the bed and into the bin. I woke my daughter up cause I promised her I would if she had them. So I had to help deliver a couple and help her get them cleaned up. The whole time my daughter kept going "Eww gross. Mom your not going to touch that. Eww she's eating it. Eww mom!" It was funny listening to her. She had seven total, but sadly the runt died a few minutes after birth. I know there is a kitty heaven out there for him or her.

Then a funny thing today. I also have a 7 month old kitten. The now momma cat helped raise her so she allowed the 7 month old to come in the bed with her and the babies. Until the kitten decided it was time to play, and the she kicked her out.

And for those of you wondering, yes she will be fixed after this.  For now we are just going to enjoy the kittens until it is time to find a good home for them.

Where do they get there energy?

Bright and early my four year gets out of bed.  He has been up for the last hour and a half and has already ran up and down the house 50 times.  He has played out side and told me 10 rambling stories.  Where does this energy come from.  Can I have some?
I am still groggy and barely moving.  I have to get ready for work and I am slowly doing that.  Even my cup of coffee hasn't helped yet.  I have always said that if you could bottle a child's energy, one drop would be enough to last you for 3 days.  I would make a fortune lol.
And then there is sleeping.  When you try to put a child down for a nap or to go to bed, they fight you.  If someone told me that I could take a nap I would be like, "yes please, where is the bed?"  What I wouldn't give to be young and full of energy again.  Well got to go.  Time to go chase down the kid and see what he is getting into.

My job history

I have a pretty long resume.  My work history includes:
* customer service rep
* cook
* maid
* chauffeur
* nurse
* detective
* toy repair
* personal assistant
* critic
* bank teller
* parole officer
* treasure hunter
* costume designer
* actor
References available.  Just ask my kids!

Family orientated content

I am still new to blogging and was looking at some blog hops.  I was hesitant to post my other blog on some of them because they said must be family orientated.  On my other blog I complain about my and my husbands distant relationship.  One post was about my lack of attraction for him.  But then I started looking at other blogs and the sites.  Some of the things on there I did not consider family orientated.  Then I started thinking about how times have changed.  I was raised by a strict farm breed mother and my opinion of family orientated content is strictly "1985 g rated."  A lot has changed since then.  At my daughters age she knows more than I did at her age.  I was probably still playing with barbies when I was her age lol.
Then I kind of looked in to the way i raise my children.  I have a very open standing with my children.  I don't believe in sheltering my children.  If the ask a question, I will be honest.  I won't go into graphic detail, but I will be honest.  I would rather have my kids learn things from me then from the wrong source.  The other day my neighbor was apologizing profusely for accidentally saying the f word in front of my 11 year old son.  He is in middle school now and kids curse all the time.  I am ok with the accidental slip.  My rule for cursing is as long as it is accidental and not directed at another person.
The term "family orientated content" also got me thinking about a conversation with my daughter a week ago.  In an elective class of hers she had to get a permission slipped sign cause some of the areas are a little touchy.  The class discusses the causes and effects of topics like lying, cheating, stealing, and sexting.  When my daughter handed my the permission slip she said " I already know you do not have a problem with me learning these things."  So we sat down and talked.  I do not have a problem with her learning those things because they are all around with life nowadays.  We discussed how kids who are not allowed to learn about the causes and effects of these topics are the ones more like to get in trouble with one of them.  A well informed child makes a better decision.
So I am curious what everyone elses opinion is of "family oriented content?"  Please leave a comment and let me know.
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Welcome to my family

Introducing the triple a family:
Alexis- 13- Has been acting like a teenager for a while now, but officially crossed into the teenage years.  She is very sociable but not very outgoing.  Good student with a bright future.  Is smarter than her mother.  Likes a cross between tom boy and prissy.

Anthony- 11- Very shy quite boy.  Has a small learning deficiency.  Loves video games and drawing.  Would rather stay at home than go out with friends.  Just started his first year of middle school.

Aiden- 4- My hellion child.  This child is none stop go go go.  Not a moments rest.  He has some of the same deficiencies that his older brother has.  Gives you a smile that makes you almost agree to anything.

Since this blog is all about my kids, I thought I would start by introducing them.